Dara Doyle-Selby

June 1961 – October 2011

Dara Doyle-Selby, 50, of Turlock, passed away suddenly and tragically at Emanuel Medical Center. Dara was born to Gary and Rethia Doyle in Trona, California. She moved to Empire at age 3 and she graduated from Beyer High School in 1979. She attended MJC and graduated from Cal. State Stanislaus with a Bachelors’ Degree in ’83 and added a teaching credential in 1984. Her first teaching position was at Avenal High School. For the last 22 years Dara has taught Physical Education at Chatom Elementary School.

Dara has many friends and has enjoyed scrapbooking, weekend trips with her Valley Moms club, working out, family camping, and Reality Shows. She has also been a loving wife and a faithful sports Mom. Swimming, Water Polo, Soccer, Golf, and Little League games have filled many weekends and have left many great memories. Her family is mourning and feeling great sadness that one who loved life, friends and family so much has been taken from them so soon.

Dara was preceded in death by her mother Rethia Rowland-Doyle. She is survived by her loving husband Mark Selby, three children: Colin, Haylie and Quinn Selby, her father Gary Doyle of Waterford, brother Brett Doyle of Modesto, and many close friends.

A Memorial Service is scheduled for Dara at Allen Mortuary on Friday, November 11th, 3:00pm.


  1. Dear Mark and family – Dara was truly one of those rare people I have met in my lifetime who always had a smile on her face, was always so positive and upbeat when you talked with her, and always acted glad to see you making you feel special, regardless
    of how long it had been since your last meeting. Our friendship started with the Valley Moms group and continued through the years as our oldest kids were in classes together. The bond of a Valley Mom is deep and strong, and I know that each time we join together
    for our annual VM&M Anniversary Dinner or Ornament exchange, we will all pay a tribute to Dara and the wonderful memories we have all shared with her. We will never forget our friend and Valley Mom sister – never. I smile when I think about how she always
    greeted me in that cheery voice of hers, “Hello, Miss Penny!” She was so fun, sweet, and kind — a friend to all. I will truly miss Dara, and am so, so, sorry for this tragic loss to your family.

  2. I want to let the entire Selby Family know what a wonderful person Dara was. I knew her from college and would run into her here and there, being in the same profession and seeing her wonderful children go through junior high. Your mom, wife was truly
    a kind hearted person who will be missed by all those who had the pleasure of knowing her. My sympathy and prayers are with your family at this very sad time. Susie Dudley

  3. Mark, I’m very sorry for your loss. Words can’t describe how most of us are feeling right now, but I want you to know that we will all be there for you and your family. Please don’t hesitate to ask if you need anything, however small.

  4. My deepest sympathy to those of you who know Dara. The most memorable memories of my life begin in high school and having Dara as my best friend. Softball, Stevie Wonder, KC and the Sunshine Band, Dara learning to drive that stick shift vw bug, camping
    in the back yard with all the junk food we could sneak, and lots of simple, silly, little things we did. I still hear her saying “it don’t matter Mary’’, ( I was the uptight one) and hearing her laugh. She loved her mama, her brother, and her daddy, telling
    her daddy often she was gonna have a baby. Thank you Mark. Colin, Haylie, and Quinn what blessings you are. Mostly what Dara taught me…is it worth the worry?, not to judge, and laugh often…including at ourselves. I love you Dara. Thanks for being my rock.

  5. I knew Dara from Chatom. I sometimes subbed for Dara and we shared a fascination for cactus. We recently exchanged a few cactus and succulents between us at school. She was a wonderful person and will be truly missed

  6. I wish express my deepest sympathies to Dara’s family, friends, and loved ones for the loss of a very unique, caring and passionate individual. This is a very hard time for everyone who knew Dara. It comes to me as a shock. I first met Dara when we played
    basketball for Modesto Jr. College. She was full of laughter and always had a smile on her face. I always considered Dara as a friend and will always remember that smile and think of her. Mark, I never met you or your family but I’m sure you are going thru
    tough times. For both families, my prayers and remembrances are with you. I know it’s hard but time heals all wounds. My prayers will go out to you and your family at this time of grievence. My love to all that had the pleasure of knowing her. She was one
    of a kind and I know I will miss her. Modesto, CA

  7. Dara will be missed by all the students with whom she worked, shared memories and had fun.! Her smile was infectious and she always showed caring and empathy with the students. As a fellow teacher with her during the 90’s and up until I retired in 2003,
    I always enjoyed working with her and also socializing after school. She had a passion for sports that spread throughout her career and she was competitive, too. But, she always had a good word for the children who may not have been the ‘best’ in the athletic
    activities, but she encouraged them. My hugs to the family and remember to read John 14 as it gives hope for her soul. Modesto, CA

  8. Mark: Words, however kind, can’t mend the heartache of your loss. I send my deepest sympathy and prayers to you and your family. Newman, CA

  9. My Aunt Dara was such a gracious loving aunt to me.It was easy to be at rest in her presence because of her easy spirit. She was a marvelous mother. One time I asked her what her what her favorite stage of childhood for her kids. She said, “I enjoyed something
    of every stage.” As a young mom this response helped me to look at every stage as enjoyable. Her love for my uncle was evident to all. I will miss seeing her smile and and her easy laughter. Turlock, CA

  10. I retired from teaching in 2009, but enjoyed talking with Dara about school and her family. I just returned from a vacation and received a call from a fellow teacher telling me of the sadness of Dara’s passing. God bless your family as you experience the
    loss of a very special person in your lives. Turlock, CA

  11. I am so sorry at your lost Mark, words can not say. You have our condolences from Vyci and I. In the comming months and years you will find the strength to carry on, it will take time, remember that, time will heal all. You are a strong person, and you
    will be the strength to your children. Modesto, CA

  12. We are shocked and saddened by Dara’s passing. Kim has many good memories of Dara as childhood friends at school. God bless and comfort you. With heartfelt sympathy. Patterson, CA

  13. Mark – I was shocked and profoundly saddened to read about the passing of your wife Dara. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Modesto, CA

  14. Mark, My heart goes out to you and your children at this incredibly sad time in you lives. Please accept my deepest condolences. Sue Frey (Communication Consultants, Modesto) Placerville, CA

  15. Mark and family, It was an honor to be a PE aide for your Mom. After 15 years of being a Chatom mom and offering to remain on the sub list at Chatom after my kids graduated, I was asked to fill in as an aide for Dara until the position was filled. After
    a week on the job I asked to apply for the position. Working with Dara was not work. She had such a quiet, gentle way of dealing with the kids that I strive to emulate. We spent a lot of time talking about our families, our pasts, and the changes we were going
    through as parents and menopausal women! Her collections of hats, pins, and sweatshirts were impressive and we all looked forward to what she would wear each holiday. The kids adored her and miss her and speak of her frequently. They often call me Mrs. Selby
    because “we both wear hats and have blond hair” (and they rotate to my class after hers and are just in the habit), but what was once a minor annoyance has become an honor. When she gave me a lovely card at the end of the last school year, it included not
    only an unnecessary gift card, but what I treasured most was that she included her personal contact information. I was honored and felt our relationship had graduated from co-worker to friend. I teased her about “having made it”. She was a generous person
    even to the point of switching to computer generated class lists because my arms were getting shorter each year and I refused to carry glasses! She said her son helped her with that. Thanks Quinn or Colin! I miss her terribly. My deepest sympathy. Ceres, CA

  16. The Selby Family, Our sincerest sympathy goes out to you. Dara was so real and so genuine….a truly unique person. The Jepson Family. Turlock, CA

  17. We are so deeply saddened and shocked by the sudden passing of Dara. You are in our thoughts and we hope that you will surround yourself with the many warm, wonderful memories you had together. With deepest sympathy, Roger, Emy, Lesley and Stephanie. Turlock, CA

  18. To the Selby family, so sorry for your loss, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. With love, Gerald, Teri, Ashley and Jordan Vera. Turlock, CA

  19. Our condolences go out to your family in this tough time we pray that you will find the strength in your heart to move forward. God Bless your family. Turlock, CA

  20. Mrs. Selby was my PE teacher 16 years ago and was my daughter kylie’s teacher this year. You were an awesome teacher Mrs. Selby, even tho I gave you such a fuss while running laps 🙂 there’s also a very upset 4th grader whom hasn’t stopped talking about
    you all day.. tho you’re gone, you’ll never be forgotten. Turlock, CA

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